Don’t Get Distracted
It’s the lousiest time of the year for your ambitions. You start out thinking that you have so much more time and energy, which is basically the worst illusion. Those are big fat lies we tell ourselves. Summer is the best season for watching time slip through your fingers. The days are longer and yet it seems as though there is never enough time to climb all the mountains, camp at all the stops, visit all of our friends, ride our bikes along all the paths or take in all the sunny patios. You can run yourself ragged doing every fun thing and not have time left for you.
Wait! Aren’t all those fun things for you? Yes, and no. Pastimes by definition make time pass, they don’t create or build. It’s more about moments of amusement, which makes great memories and grows our connections—then leaves our hearts empty like eating a bag of cookies when we haven’t eaten any supper.
Know What You’re Sacrificing
We’re all trying to fit everything into a short window of time. Most weddings, family reunions, ball tournaments and festivals happen when it’s nice out—and we hate turning down the people we care about for other things of seemingly equal importance. Your friends, family and commitments to others are important, but they aren’t more important than your commitments to yourself. You come first—you have to. Your relationship with yourself matters and the plans you have for your future matter.
Summer Means More Than Fun
Think of all the great outings. You’ll be going biking, hiking, boating, rafting, paddleboarding and while that’s all fun, fun, fun—it’s not going to get you any closer to accomplishing your dreams. What a drag! Reality is harsh! You can’t make time for everything, but you can make time for the things you care about most. What you choose defines you and your life. It’s the daily grind that makes the difference in the long run. If you consistently pick entertainment over productivity you’ll have an incredible social feed filled with photos. Yay! Except you won’t have done anything towards your big end goal, which is sentencing yourself to the slow burn of disappointment in yourself. And let’s be honest, disappointment in yourself is the absolute worst.
Don’t Disappoint Yourself
If writing your first book is your summer goal, you’ll have to skip the camping trips and stay home while the rest of your friends and family are off roasting marshmallows and telling ghost stories. Think you can go camping and write your book? It’s not impossible, but a solid weekend of productivity followed by a solid weekend of camping is better than going camping two weekends with the intention of juggling both. Trying to visit and write at the same time, that’s not a pretty picture. Let’s be adults about this, everyone knows you should do your homework before going outside to play.
What You Do Today Defines Tomorrow
You can have it all, you just can’t have it all at once. Plan to hustle for at least a few weekends. Sit outside on a patio to work and fantasize how awesome it will feel when you accomplish your goals. The adrenaline rush you’ll get from realizing your dreams will make missing out on that zipline trip no big deal. If the people around you don’t understand that hustling is your number one priority this summer, it might be time to add some new people to your network. There are other hustlers out there feeling the same stigma as you are about being the not-so-fun friend.
Feeling left out is a feeling you’ll get over once you’ve made it.