Pin The Tail On The Pony
Hello, anxiety! You feel it when you’re trying to win a game of Pin The Tail On The Donkey. You want to get it as close as you can to the right spot, but the person who spun you twirled you so fast you want to throw up. Yet, you’re committed to playing. You hold still and wait for the floor to steady beneath you then shuffle forward and place your attempt on the wall. It’s a miss. You aren’t even close. Your pin is on the wall next to the poster because you can’t see and walked in the wrong direction. This is a silly kids party game, but it’s also how a lot of people operate their lives. They give other people control and let life spin them around until they are shoved in the “right” direction.
Who do You Want to Be?
“Who do you want to be when you grow up?” It’s a trick question they tell small children and sometimes adults still fall prey to it. The answer could be anything and everything, including dragon hunter. You don’t ever really have to know that one thing you want to be when you grow up. The only thing you truly need to do is go after the things that interest you—of course—working hard at them doesn’t hurt either.
Enjoy Your Journey
Our expectations of ourselves are often incredibly unreasonable and unkind. Living life like you’re blindfolded and forcing your own hand by randomly placing your commitment on something you aren’t even sure you’ll enjoy is cuckoo. That’s like going to a restaurant and choosing the one dish you’ll eat for the rest of your life. Yikes! Or maybe a better word is yuck!
Make Room to Figure it Out
Wondering what to do next with your life can render you in a state of paralysis. It’s pretty hard to figure out where you’re going if you don’t take time to explore what’s out there and check the map. Going full speed ahead gets you to the next stop faster than you’d like. How would you like to marry the first person you meet? Most people date a few people before they decide who they’d like to marry and the same should go for your career. You should date around a bit before committing to spending the rest of your life investing in it. Variety is the spice of life and if you find yourself feeling bored or misdirected, it’s time to try something new. Start with a low-pressure something and move up from there.
That Nagging Question Never Goes Away
What do you want to be when you grow up? It’s a question that will continue to revisit your mind at different times in your life. It loves to show up when you’re having a tough week doing the thing you thought you wanted to do—the thing that you love and are committed to seeing through. That’s when this devilish little question likes to derail you. Even the most passionate people question their pursuits and often it’s because we’ve been limiting ourselves.
Everything and Anything
Keep things fresh by getting a new perspective and exploring other options. The possibilities are endless. Yes, endless! When you were small you might have wanted to be a veterinarian-painter-athlete-chef or a skydiver-explorer-sculptor-mother-nurse. You didn’t see anything wrong with an unlikely combination and today you can find someone who calls themselves an engineer-blogger-dad-activist-comedian and another who is a dedicated farmer-mechanic-reporter-entrepreneur-barista. You don’t have to define yourself by one career or title. You can be a little bit of a whole variety of things and continue to evolve. Make time and room for trying new things. Maybe it won’t be your thing, but maybe it will.
Don’t knock it until you try it.