Stephen Martell: Life Needs Forced Patience
“Be comfortable enough not to be afraid to fail.” —Stephen Martell
For Stephen Martell, there is no separation between life and work. (When you love what you do, there’s just no difference.) And because his work demands travel, his life demands he figure out a way to make travel part of living his best life.
Advice isn’t all good.
When Stephen started travelling, he took advice from his boss to use the same hotel chain and airline everywhere he went. It would be more familiar with the added perk of gaining more travel points, his boss said.
That simply didn’t work for Stephen. It was monotonous. Now he finds a hotel after he lands in a new city and allows himself the freedom to listen to where in the city calls to him. The fly-by-the-seat-of-the-pants approach makes travelling more spontaneous and enjoyable for him. He takes time on the plane to be meditative and finds that part of the routine to be helpful.
Pro tip for travelers: Stephen suggests you get the hotel to do your laundry before you head home.
Jetlag doesn't want a beer.
When he’s travelling vast distances, Stephen runs to help deal with jetlag rather than sitting down with a beer—which, he points out, tends to do the opposite of energize you after travel. He sees each new city as a limited time offer because he’s only in that location for a short time and who knows when he’ll be able to get back. So when he’s in Los Angeles he always makes time for the beach.
When Stephen gets home from a work trip, he does something that would scare a lot of people.
Stephen deletes his entire email inbox.
Yep. Stephen says people will follow up when it comes to the truly important messages, and this way he can build his own to-do list instead of being at the whims of others. He knows some people find his inbox purging rude, but he figures it’s worth balancing a bit of rudeness and respect for himself.
Force your patience.
It all comes back to his tactic of changing the way he looks at life as a way to change his life. He enjoys failing when it’s a means to later success and encourages others to do the same. He’s a big proponent of what he calls “forced patience.” That’s Stephen’s way of looking at speed vs. urgency. Doing a task with speed is rushing. Doing it with urgency is focused intent. You want more urgency, not more speed. Slowing down and forcing that patience isn’t lazy. It’s essential to getting it right.
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